@raisingboys_2men asked this of his sons. They both wanted more one on one time with him. https://www.instagram.com/reel/CsYXhjjoFwX/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== Have you ever asked this question? Have you ever been asked this question? If you did ask the question are you prepared for any answer? If you were asked the question did you…

I know there’s been studies done on this. I started to wonder who the audience was that they studied. I wondered if it is was neurotypical, corporate-types. Those where quick-thinking, surface-level, impress-me stuff is necessary. As a neurodivergent, introvert who is reluctantly accepting that everything takes longer for me, including…

It’s 50 minutes of dedicated writing time with people from all over the world on Zoom. Find it here. It’s been a bloody revelation to me. And not just because it makes me write more than if I didn’t attend. …

Get intentional and mindful, know what makes you mad and allow your brain to reconcile the feeling with the understanding and file it away accordingly. Unexpected, unprompted, (unwelcome) emotions come because they got stuck somewhere. When whatever happened to make you feel the way you felt, something got in the…

I’m writing this in regards to psychotherapy but I imagine it’s transferrable across all types of relationship. Today I had a fourth session with a client. After the initial assessment session which is usually lots of probing questions and an expectation that you’ll tell me a bit about anything that…

I believe things happen in threes. Committed to seeing ‘process’ not narrative, it has come to my attention that in recent years there have been two pairs of dogs — each pair one light, one dark — that have stirred uncomfortable emotions in me. …

A perfectly legitimate reason. I am 40 years and 11 months old and it just dawned on me that the above is true and I have been avoiding expressing it most of my life. There will have been a point early on where I would have said “I don’t want…

We can ingest others’ treatment of us so well that we become it. This poor treatment of ourselves can be understood and transformed but it’s made difficult by it feeling truly ‘us’ that is doing it to ourself. But you weren’t born with that ability. You learned it. …

You are already so impressive. There’s so much time! The normalcy of ‘those’ people out there living their best life, the life they’re expected to live, living to the rules of society, is false. Those students living it up at university, or those early-twenty-somethings already graduated are not the only…