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Smaller than I’ve experienced before, in a pub, definitely not for me.
This is a paragraph from my first article about my journey back into kink:
“Kink is still me and I am still kink, I love talking about the creative ways humans find to entertain themselves and express themselves, and I don’t really go in for taboos, so finding a community that is sex positive, understands consent (and therefore presumably is less infiltrated by unconscious misogyny) and is accepting are the foundations I wish to grow my social life on.”
I like it as a sort of manifesto of what I’m doing and why. It also introduces some reflection points.
My last story ended with me going to an event with the women I met at my first official Munch and a firm decision never to go to that event again!
A sparkly affair
The only play events I’ve been to have been club nights in London plus one closer to home in a photography studio that ended up being a very challenging night.
For this new event on a weeknight I expected a smallish venue, dark, fetish wear — the theme was sparkly, my favourite! — music. Even though I’d read the dress code and it said vanilla clothing was acceptable, I hadn’t paid much mind because it was a themed event and I figured everyone was going for some escapist fun.
Vanilla clothing doesn’t half dampen an excited mood!
I had been planning my outfit around the strict rules of the club nights I was used to. Thankfully I ended up wearing a skirt, a top and a harness, and I still felt over-dressed. My friends also wore similar ‘fancy’ wear but not fetish clothing.
As I followed the directions to the venue I realised my expectations had completely blinded me to the fact that this was a pub! Just your general, run of the mill, old man pub in the city centre. Not very erotic.
The array of outfits went from hoodies and joggers (oh my!) to full PVC doll dress up. Mostly it was short dresses with sequins, men wore trousers and shirts, I was disappointed and a bit uncomfortable at the disparity.
A couple of my friends had been before and gave me the ‘tour’. It’s a long pub with the main bar and booth seating…
