So many people tell you “at least you’re not…./ or at least you’ve got….” Fuck em! If you feel rubbish, feel rubbish!
You’ve probably heard the hypothetical tale of that one poor person in the world that actually has it worse than everyone else.
I would counter that somewhat obnoxiously with a thought-journey about how we define what is ‘bad’, ‘traumatic’, ‘the worst’ — who gets to decide what is bad enough to feel down about?
That fun, potentially ever-lasting journey will eventually get you to the point of realising your sensational experience moment to moment is only for YOU. And only you get to decide the meaning of that, because only you have the history that informs your particular way of making sense of things.
So if you are having a hard time because you are working through the attachment trauma resulting from your parents involving you in every argument they ever had; but explaining your difficulty in speaking up for your own needs by saying they’re not important and it doesn’t matter because at least they didn’t hit you — then permission granted to feel the weight of the shit time you had as a child.
If you are having a hard time identifying what you like in life because you spent a lifetime learning how to predict what other people want and going with that because it…
