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Therapist returns to therapy — session 12
The one where I’m in the room but not available
Noticing the process as well as, if not moreso, the content/narrative of an experience/interaction. Beautifully illustrated by the process of leaving the house the morning of therapy:
Not being able to get out of the house on time with all the things done. I did get out on time to get to where I was going on time but I didn’t get all the things done beforehand that I wanted to. I did objectively have time for all the things I just didn’t use it well enough. The process is what it’s about! Probably executive dysfunction too!
My ruminations on relationships and what I want/offer/need
A statement my therapist said halfway through the session: “what I know about you so far you could probably be very demanding before you become demanding” this stopped me in my tracks. Simultaneously it’s reassuring and it opened space for thoughts around why I can’t get so many of my relational needs met.
I know nobody is perfect, so with that in mind I’m still unsure about what’s okay to demand from another person if we are entering into a relationship (platonic, romantic or otherwise). I use demand consciously because I’m learning that these are my deal-breakers, I will not compromise, these are my…
